torah contest on friendship

By Sarah Tawil There was a new girl in school. Her name is Jen. Every day, she would walk to school alone. One day, her parents won the lottery and it was all over the school. All of a sudden, everyone ran to her and wanted to be her friend. After a few days, she realized that everyone was using her. But, there was one girl who liked Jen even before she won the lottery, but was too shy to talk to her. The next day, Jen told everyone that her parents lost the money. She wanted to see if people would still talk to her. But, not one person talked to her, just that shy girl. After that, Jen became friends with the shy girl. She saw clearly who was a good friend and who was a fake friend.

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Stories to Build Friendship

By Charlie Chera   Chaim’s Bar Mitzvah was in two days. But, he didn’t know how to read the Torah. He went to his best friend Yaakov. “Yaakov, can you help me with taamim?” Yaakov said, “Sorry, I can’t.” Chaim was disappointed. He went to this boy, named Meir. Chaim didn’t like Meir because he wasn’t good at sports. Chaim was desperate so he had to ask him to help with taamim. He said, “Meir, you are smart and cool. So, I want to know if you want to teach me taamim. Meir said, “Yes. Please come over my house and we’ll work on it.” Chaim went to his house. He learned it. They day of his bar mitzvah he read the torah great. He didn’t forget anything. He felt great. Everybody asked him, “Who taught you taamim?” Chaim answered, “I taught myself.” When Meir heard this he was very upset. Meir had taught Chaim so well and Chaim took all the credit. You should never take advantage of anybody. Sooner or later, people will find out how Chaim lied. You should never lie. If you lie, eventually you will never have any friends.

Stories to Build Friendship

By Esther Maleh One day, I was playing in recess. Then I fell and I couldn’t get up. No one was around me. Someone saw me and she ran to me. She asked me if I was ok. She also took me up to the nurse from recess. That’s called a good friend. Someone is showing off their stuff and she never liked you. Then, one day, you have something very cool she comes up to you and wants to be your friend, all of a sudden. That means she is trying to use you so she could have the cool things. That’s called a bad friend.

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Stories to Build Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Nissim Khafif A good friend is someone who cares about you. He wants you to come over. He is loyal and honest. A bad friend is someone who hurts you; someone who is a sketch friend. He only wants your answers for the test but, right after the test, doesn’t even talk to you.

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Stories That Build Courage – CLICK TO COMMENT

By David Mustacchi One day me and my friends were making plans. But there was this one kid that didn’t get invited.  He was crying. I walked up to to him and said, “What happened?” And he said, ” I never get invited to no ones house. Not even one time.” I felt bad for him so, I said, “Maybe try asking the kid if you could come over.” He said, “Okay.” He walked strait up to him and said, “Could I come over?” The boy said, “Yes.” The kid that was crying was so excited. But, then the other kids said, “He is such a bad kid.” They said all the bad things behind his back. The kid that yes went up to that boy and said, “You can’t come over, because I heard you were a bad kid.” The boy came up to me and said, “I told you. Can’t you see I never get invited? Next time don’t bother even helping me.” I felt so bad. So, i said, “If he doesn’t come, I’m not coming over.” So this boy that was inviting said, “Okay. I will invite him.” That’s why you should always stick up for other people.

From the Torah on Facebook

By Coral Cohen – Saban Maybe in school you don’t have so many friends so you would think that on instagram or Facebook and twitter you could change your whole personality based on what people like and don’t like. The difference between real friendship and fake friendship is that real friendship is to have a real connection with someone who you could really talk to.

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Character Building Stories on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Victor Sardar A good friend and a bad friend are totally different. Good friends are people who are nice. One time, I went to my cousin. We went together to our friends. I am not as good of a sports player as other kids. They let only the best kids play. My cousin was part of them and I wasn’t. He was so nice to me. He wasn’t playing because I wasn’t playing. A bad friend is a person who, when he sees people he knows, he starts acting not like himself. One time, I was in the park with my friend. He was acting all cool around the cool kids and left me behind. That’s when I knew he was a bad friend. People use each other to fit in. People want to be like other people so much that they end up being mean towards others.

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Jewish Ethics on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Nancy Cohen Emily was a very popular girl in the grade. She was pretty and had a lot of toys. Jennifer wasn’t very popular and she didn’t have a lot of toys. Jennifer always brought lunch from home that her mom made. When it was lunch time, Emily came to Jennifer and was very nice to her so she can get her lunch. Jennifer didn’t know she was being taken advantage of. Jennifer gave Emily lunch. When they got back to class, Emily embarrassed Jennifer. She said in front of everyone, “Jennifer’s lunch was so bad today. Her mom is such a bad cook!” Everybody laughed at her. Jennifer was embarrassed and she was crying. Jennifer learned not to be friends with her anymore.

Stories to Build Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Evelyn Tebele A good friend is a friend who is always there for you. Someone I know was being teased by a group of mean girls. She needed someone to be there for her. Her friend stood up for her and told them to stop being mean to her. Even though the girl was very shy, she stood up for her friend because she loved her friend and couldn’t just sit there and watch her true friend be teased. That showed that she was there for her and she was willing to take the heat for her friend. That’s why they are really true friends because, if she was just using her, she wouldn’t care about her as much as she does.

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Stories to Build Teamwork – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Lauren Sardar If you are the lead in a play, before you start the play you should give credit to the people who wrote and directed the play. It is important to give a compliment because if you have a friend who is good at poetry and you don’t thank her, she will stop writing poems and do something she hates instead. Esther was the writer of a play and, on the night of the play, I announced loudly that all of this happened because of Esther, because she wrote this play.

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By Lisa Jammal  One day, there was a play going on. The hidden talent was the maid and the spotlight was the queen. The maid was jealous and wanted the spotlight. The queen was very good at her part. The maid made the queen get hurt so she could take the part. The maid was horrible as the queen. The queen had to be the new maid. When the show was going to start, the new queen got nervous and messed up the whole show. But, the new maid saved the show even though she was the hidden talent.

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Stories to Build Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Sarah Cohen A good friend never tells you to change. If you are wearing something you really like and your friend tells you to change because she doesn’t like your outfit, that’s not a good friend. A good friend knows how you feel even if you don’t say anything. When you take advantage of someone, you yourself are suffering. Why? Because you never experience real friendship, you don’t have any good friends and they won’t be there for you when you need them the most. Sure, you got a lot of “friends” on Facebook. But think to yourself, “Are they really my friends? Are they going to be there for me when I really need them?”

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From the Torah on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Michelle Kassab One day, my friend Emily and I were at school. Lisa, the popular girl, came up to me and invited me to her party. But my best friend, Emily, wasn’t invited. I told Emily that if she wasn’t invited I won’t go either. Emily said, “Go and have fun.” So, I went. At the party, Lisa was acting like my best friend, but it felt strange. But, I still went with it. The next day, Lisa asked if I wanted to do homework together with her by her house. I said, “Yes.” But, then, Emily came up to me and asked if I want to go out tonight with her. I told her I had plans with Lisa. I said, “I won’t go.” But, Emily said, “Don’t worry, just go.” I went to Lisa’s house. When we were doing homework, it looked like I was doing all the work, but I just went with it. The next day, Lisa asked me to do her homework for her. I told her “No” and went to my best friend, Emily. Emily was a real friend, she took me back.

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Jewish Values on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Edgar Chkalo A bad friend is someone who is selfish, someone who talks about himself. Beware of a friend who likes only you because he just wants to use you for what you have. When he gets what he wants from you, he will start hating you. That’s what I think about how to choose a friendly friend.

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Torah Perspective on Facebook – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Gabriel Bildirici When you log on to any social media, you waste time on trying to keep up with the whole world rather than building and growing relationships. Real friends will be there for you if you need help. Noone posts on Facebook what’s real. As a result everyone thinks you are someone who you aren’t. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have a lot of followers, as long as you have your friends.

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Motivational Essay about Conquering Fears – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Theela C.  When I was a young girl, I had a fear of roller coasters. Every summer in camp we would go to six flags. All of my friends would go on the scary rides, except me. Whenever they would go on the rides, I would have to sit on the side myself and wait for them to get off. I hated doing this, but I just couldn’t get myself to go n a scary ride. While we were waiting on line I almost backed out, but I pushed myself not to. I finally went on a scary ride that day. And it was the best decision I have ever made.

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By Diana Hoffstein Facebook, Instagram and Twitter almost everyone has one. It changes your life and your friendships. You probably don’t even want a Facebook or Twitter but you get it so that, maybe, you could be just like the other people who seem “popular,” but really they are just like you. All you do is compare yourself to your other “friends.” Some might be real. Others are just people who followed you to gain followers. They don’t care about you or your personality. They just want to be more popular. You try to get a lot of friends and likes. Why? So you would feel better about yourself? It doesn’t make you feel better because what happens if these social media sites get “unpopular” or “overrated?”

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Jewish Stories on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Shirley Sardar One day, I was walking in the hallway when my friend came up to me and said, “Can you help me find my jacket?” I said, “Ok, I’ll help you.” We went into the last class she was in and it was locked. We had to go downstairs and get the key. When we opened the door, we saw it wasn’t there. We went to her math class. It wasn’t there. We looked in her science class. It wasn’t there. Then she said, “Let’s just give up.” I said, “No. We will find it. Let’s go look in Lost and Found.” We found her jacket there. She was so happy that she found it. She was thankful that I helped her. I told her, “Anything for a best friend.”

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From the Torah on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Morris Guindi People choose friends that take advantage of them because they want money, toys, to be in a big house, be popular and try to be cool. The sign of a good friend is if you get in a fight with someone and he is on your side. Also, if he includes you in everything and tells people to include you as well. A bad friend is someone who is nice to you and mean to everyone else.

Jewish Stories to Build Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Isaac Gindi  A sign of a good friend is someone who plays with you and doesn’t leave you out. One time, my friend came over to my house to play football and we had a good time. At school we played football in passes and I fell. He helped me up. I had little cuts so he took me to the nurse. Turned out I broke my arm. The next day in school, he signed my cast and said, “Everything will be alright.” I couldn’t write so he offered to write for me. When I finally got my cast off, he told me, “I told you everything is going to be ok.”

From the Torah on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Morris Esquenazi I have a friend who is everything I can ask for. He shares because he knows how it feels to want something and not get it. He is also a good influence. He is well behaved. My friend has a great quality of honesty. He is always nice even when we disagree. Today, most people don’t have friends as good as mine. Most people take advantage of different people for different things. They like their games or friends, but they don’t like him for who he truly is. That person doesn’t know what fun is because he is always taking advantage. Also, the person that is being taken advantage of is not happy because they both don’t like each other for who they are.

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Short Stories on Teamwork – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Rebecca Sardar It was the summer of 2012. We had color war in camp. I was chosen to be the captain of my team. I was so happy and I, maybe, was too excited. I put myself in the color war dance, play, games and everything else. I was so carried away that I was selfish and forgot everyone else’s feelings. It was the day before color war and I was walking to the gym. On my way, I heard people. I looked and I saw two girls, from my color war group, acting. They were background dancers from the play I was the star of. I said, “Wow you guys are good actresses.” They said, “Thanks.” That night, I was thinking that, if they have talents, other girls might have so many more talents as well.

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Torah Values on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Jack Guindi A good friend means someone who cares for you. An example is if you are down and your friend helps you back up. A bad friend will not help you back up. A good friend is unselfish. For example, he asks you, “What game do you want to play?” If he is a bad friend, he will probably say, “No, I don’t care what you want to play. I want to play my game.” A good friend will say ‘hello’ to you when he sees you and not just walk away.

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Teen Stories to Build Resilience – CLICK TO COMMENT

By David Cohen    As a teenager Jimmy encounters many social problems daily. I’d have to say his ongoing social problems would be his friends. His friends are limited yet nice. He enjoys hanging out with them during school. When his parents said that they needed to move, Jimmy was excited at first, but got scared for the long term affects. He was afraid that his social life would be shattered. When he started new school he was welcomed by the new kids and made more friends that he made in his old school.

How to Overcome Fear – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Linda Banbahji    Fear can cause many people to lose several things. On a personal lever fear causes me to be too scared to raise my hand and answer questions in class because I might get it wrong. As a result I lose points in my grade because I don’t really participate in class. In addition I may never know the true answer to my question because I am too embarrassed to ask. I acknowledge this fear. Because like everyone, I’m not perfect. From this session I learned that “Mistake is the teacher”. I have to work on myself to improve. Even if I get the wrong answer my mistakes will teach me and I won’t get the answer wrong on the test. Hopefully, though conquering this fear it’ll help me conquer another fear, until fear won’t cause me to lose anything else.

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By Coral Cohen – Saban   Last summer I was too afraid to skateboard. Then, I finally got on it and did it. Ever since, I know how to ride a skateboard. Before that, I was afraid that maybe I will get hurt or something. Life is all about taking chances, because you can’t go back to relieve that day. Take chances, risk things, because you never know that maybe one day you could be the one making a difference.

Fear makes it hard to be yourself – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Jenny Yedid  I had a wedding where my 9 year old sister marched. My mom bought her a dress that was stunning but was different and unique. It was not the same style that everybody wears. Because of this reason, she was scared and nervous to wear it. My whole family kept on encouraging her and telling her to face her fears. She refused to listen because she didn’t want to step out of her comfort zone. Then, one day, she thought about what we were saying and finally listened. On the day of the wedding, she marched perfectly and everyone loved her dress.

Letting go of past experiences – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Bert Dweck   One day, I decided to run a marathon and tried to be the winner. I never ran more than 2 miles in my life. I started training every day for 45 minutes and it was going fine. Then I ran a 10 mile marathon after training 45 minutes a day for 3 months and collapsed right before I reached 6 miles. I was really upset and ashamed of myself. I felt like I was a fool and couldn’t succeed. I just decided to think positive and forget about all of the stumbling blocks and mistakes that ever happened to me. I started my training all over again. I increased my training to 1 hour and 30 minutes a day and I ran the same marathon 1 year later. I was very nervous before the marathon that something might happen. I ended up succeeding and winning the marathon. I won a first place medal. The lesson I learned was to never give up and you will succeed.

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By Raphael Ammar   Sam wants to be some kind of sports player. Sometimes he makes mistakes, like falling or hurting someone. He ends up getting a comment like “you suck”. The other kids always make him feel like he is not good enough to play that sport. That ends up changing his whole life. Just by saying one word you change someone’s life. You shouldn’t let these things bother you. Just keep on trying and don’t let anything stop you.

What you lose because of fear in friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Terri Elmann  From your first step inside your new summer camp, you know your doubtful feelings that finding friends will be hard. From your high ponytail to your twitching feet, everything about your appearance is unwelcomed. At your assigned group, kids are wearing crop top shirts, their hair down and flowing, laughing and gossiping happily with friends. You blush and stutter nervously, “H-h-hi.” Girls glare at your splash of freckles and light skin. They laugh and giggle and point at you. One girl takes your seat grinning maliciously. Your eyes tear up but you don’t want to start bawling in front of these girls. Your knees buckle weakly and you hurry outside for some fresh air. Tears flow down your face and you wish you could have been put in a different camp. Summer comes and goes quickly with not a word from either of the girls. Only splattered eggs on your window. Overcome your fears. Stand up for yourself. Don’t live with the fear of being bullied by girls who make it clear that you’re unwanted. Success comes in a can, not a can’t. Inspire people to follow your brave path and hope bullying will decrease in a large amount.

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By Sara Sultan I think when people get into a fight with their close friends and text them while they are in a fight can often be meaner than how you would talk to them in person. Sometimes, if they text you about how they feel, they would also jump to conclusions and say hurtful words that they don’t really mean.

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Finding success after failure in performance – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Denise Bildirici Everyone knows you have a really good voice. The popular girl in the class announces there is a singing contest and she is going to win. Your best friend begs you to enter but you don’t listen. At the contest, the popular girl wins and rubs it in your face. The next time there was a singing contest you entered. A few hours before the contest, you back out. Now you feel bad because you think you never had a chance to win. The popular girl wins again and rubs it in your face even more. There was one final contest that year and you signed up. You get on stage and hear a voice inside you saying, “You’ll fail.” You push that voice away, sing and win. A few years later, you are a well-known singer. That would have never happened had you listened to the Yetzer Hara and stopped trying.

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