Jewish Values on Facebook

By Bobby Matalon Did you ever have a real friend? Well, Facebook tricks your mind. Facebook makes you believe that, if you get “Friended,” it means you got a friend. But, while you think you have friends, you don’t know them in real life. Maybe the reason you got friended is because the person who friended is saying, “Oh look. If I friend this popular guy, then he’ll friend me and because he friended me everyone will friend me. That’s how people think on Facebook. Most of the time people who friend you on Facebook are fake. They are just using you to get followers.

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Jewish Values on Facebook – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Sari Cattan  In my opinion social media can affect friendships and relationships in both good and bad ways. In a negative way, social media gives you the wrong judgment of others and gives others the wrong judgment of you. If one of your friends doesn’t post a picture for your birthday, apparently it means that you are not close friends. It definitely lowers your confidence, especially when you see a popular person who has tons of followers and getting lots of likes and you are not getting as many as them. Everything with these social media causes people to make judgments about each other.

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Stories to Build Teamwork – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Jacob Rishty Imagine yourself being the leader or a captain of a group to work on a bridge for a class. Your team is: you, your best friend, another friend, and two other boys from your class. You want to be appreciated but not to be selfish. So, you try to include everyone’s hidden talents. But, you only know your best friend’s hidden talent. Now, you need to find out everyone else’s hidden talent. You try to hang out with everyone else and you find their hidden talents. When the teacher says everyone get in your groups, you and your group do just that. Everyone is waiting for you to tell them what they are doing. You tell them what you have decided. None of them are unhappy with his part. They are all happy that they have the part that they wanted. In the end, the teacher smiles at your group knowing that we all got along. Your group got an A+. Without my team, I would’ve gotten an “F”. But, thanks to my team, we got an A+.

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By Shoshana Dweck Social media can ruin your individuality and yourself. You might see a picture on Instagram or Facebook or any other social media, and see a picture of someone that is shopping with all her friends and she gets so many likes just because what they are doing is cool and everyone wants to go with them. She might say to herself, “I am not with them. I am not cool.” But you don’t really like what they are doing.

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By Samantha Chabot True friendship is one of the most important things in your life and it’s being ruined by social media. Social media allows friendship to be a click of a button. Someone could have a million ‘friends’ on Facebook, but, out of those, how many are genuine friends? Almost every kid and adult has either a Facebook, Instagram or Twitter account. You might ask what is wrong, why is it bad? On someone’s birthday a person might get a text or tweet of “Happy Birthday” but what does it mean? You don’t put any effort in saying it. The person gets so happy that she got a million texts that say “Happy Birthday” but, in the real world, did any one of them make an effort to say it in person? Social media takes away reality and people along with it.

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Jewish Stories to Build Courage – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Samantah Chabot   There is nothing to fear but fear itself. If you have fear you won’t try new things; therefore not prospering,. You won’t get anywhere in your life. Because you were nervous during a test, you failed. If you are confident you will ace the test. You could bring a lot of pain to yourself if you have fear. You won’t tell anybody that you‘re getting bullied. Have risks and take chances. Think of the worse things that will happen if you take risk. Always be strong. Have confidence. Take risk.

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By Bobby Tawil   I have always been obsessed with Star Wars. Yoda has many wise things to day. As a wise, small green alien once said, “Fear is the path to the dark side.” This have been true in many cases and particular during my black belt test. I have been doing karate for almost five years and learned combat strategy. Still I have never fought in real life. When my test came up I was able to avoid and block almost every attack. I could have attacked every attack. I could have attacked back. But, I was so scared to hit even in a competitive atmosphere. In retrospective, I realized I could have won and there wouldn’t have been any hard feelings. After that boy received his black belt and I didn’t, I was upset and jealous. Because in everything else I performed great. I failed only because I was too scared to hit back in a competition. I have since learned my lesson and I am eager to retake the test. Fear can cause many unnecessary feelings of dismay and over complicating of a situation. Do not be afraid of anything or you will lose out on many opportunities.

Short Story How to Achieve Your Goal – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Bobby Matalon  I want to be a basketball player. But, I’m afraid that I’m going to miss. So, now if I want to be good, I have to practice. Every day I practiced 3 hours a day .Three months later I had my first game. I went out onto the court and took my first shot. I scored 38 points in that first game. I learned that practice makes perfect.

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By Joey Alhadef  When you have an idea that you want to share, you should share it or your chance will pass. Your friends will move on to something else. If you think your idea is good, then share it even if you think your friends won’t like it. A lot of successful people have been told that their ideas were weird or their friends didn’t like it but, in the end, they were successful. You are supposed to take risks and face problems.

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By Elliot Levy  Many times in life, you may come to an opportunity where you can choose to either take a risk or be conservative. Numerous people may decide to be conservative and miss out on what they could have gotten. Whenever people do something and fail, they can learn from their mistakes. They can derive what they did wrong and how to fix it. Without taking risks, there are no mistakes that we can learn from. In business, a company must choose to be innovative and create something new by taking a risk. If they do not take any risks, other companies will prosper while they will fail. There are many benefits to taking risks. You can discover opportunities that you would not have faced.

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What you lose by being shy – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Rachel Isayev  One time in chemistry class, the teacher asked a question. It was an advanced question that was very difficult to answer. Therefore, very few raised hands to answer the question and those who did got it wrong. I was pretty sure I knew that answer, but my fear took control and I was too nervous to raise my hand. As I was debating with myself whether I should raise my hand or not, someone else raised their hand. That student got the answer right and was rewarded with extra points on her average. The disappointing part was that I was going to say the exact same answer and, if I wasn’t so afraid to say it, then I would’ve gotten the points. Ever since this incident, I don’t shy away from answering questions. Occasionally, I get the bonus questions and I am the one who receives the points. Don’t let fear control actions because you can be much more successful if you conquer it.

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Finding success after failure in Sports – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Sondra Bukobza  There once was a basketball player who always played offense because that’s what he played since he was little. One day, the coach asked him to play defense because the starting defense was injured. He took the risk and played defense instead of the usual offense. He continued playing defense and, three years down the line, he got offered a college basketball scholarship playing defense. Even if you’re scared, take the opportunity. It might come only once.

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Character Trait of Resilience – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Allegra Timsit   In one of my classes, homework is worth 35% of my grade. I did everything. Then, at the last question I got stock. I couldn’t figure out the answer to the question. I tried and tried over and over more than 20 times. I didn’t want to give up an lose 35% of my grade. I kept telling myself, “Don’t give up. You can do it.” I tried once more. When I finally got the answer, after 40 tries, I was happy that I didn’t give up.

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By Mimi Levy  It is extremely important to take chances. You have one life to live and it’s extremely important to live it to its fullest potential. Sometimes, it might be scary. But, if you don’t step out of your comfort zone, you can regret it for the rest of your life. For example, you can lose a great job experience because you are too nervous to show the boss what you are made of. However, it might be too dangerous to take certain chances. You should definitely step out of your comfort zone but don’t be too risky so that it ends up badly.

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By Batya Kairey  I was in Great Adventure in the summer. My friends all wanted to go on a Kingda Ka, but I was scared. I was not scared that I would die, but that I was afraid of the heights. My friends tried to convince me to go on a Kingda Ka, but I was trembling with fear. My friends went on line without me and tried to convince me to come on with them. They were almost at the top and I still didn’t go. When they came down, they were all talking and laughing. They were screaming how good it was. I felt so left out because I didn’t go on. On the next ride they went on, I went, too, and had the time of my life. I will never be afraid to go on any ride again because, if the other people can do it, I can do it too.

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By Sion Dweck One day, Ikey went to his friend. His friend was popular and everybody was kind of forced to follow him. Ikey was different from everybody. Every morning, he would wake up very early and pray, put money in sedaka. When he went to his friend’s house, he was told he had to sleep there because it was snowing. He couldn’t do what he did every morning. Ikey was forced to leave his comfort zone because of society. He can overcome it by being himself. He could have been brave and do what he does every morning.

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By Ezra Dweck When I was in the Dominican Republic, my dad was playing volleyball. After one guy left, they needed one more person to play. I was sitting on the side watching the game and, all of a sudden, my dad asked me if I wanted to play. At first I said no, but then my dad convinced me to play. So, I played. I was nervous because I never really played this sport before. My dad told me to keep on trying and then I will get it. I was finally playing very well. I loved playing, I wish I can play this sport every day of my life.

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Jewish Stories to Build Courage – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Yola Haber You can miss many new friendship opportunities if you fear rejection. One thing that can prevent this fear is the thought of what can come from these friendships. It might be hard to ask people to hang out if you constantly think that you will always be rejected. How will you know you will be rejected if you won’t even ask? You can start with simple suggestions, if you have trouble in a class, try to ask someone you don’t know to help you. You could succeed in your studied and make a new friends in the process. Just be yourself and if someone doesn’t appreciate you, then they certainly aren’t worth your time.

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By Emily Waingort   Sometimes in class it is very scary to raise your hand and say what you think or feel. If you have something nice to say but fear what your peers or teacher will think, you miss out on letting your thoughts be heard. If you overcome your fear and raise your hand, you have the chance to sound smart and thoughtful. You have to the chance to spread your thoughts as opposed to keeping them inside and regretting it later.

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By Albert Rahmey  When someone has an idea however they are too afraid to say it they miss out on opportunity to say something intelligent. If they idea had been a good idea that could’ve solved a problem or helped someone, they wouldn’t have known because they were too afraid to say it. If you have a great idea, nobody would’ve known it unless you had the courage to say it out loud.

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By Gabe Saff   In modern times people only do stuff to satisfy others instead of yourself. If somebody buys clothes they buy what they believe is cool to other people. You don’t hear about people that do the ordinary things. You hear about the people who stand out and try to make a statement. The most successful people in the world are the ones that take risks.

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By Jack Mizrahi   A couple of years ago a plane landed in the Hudson River. The pilot and the crew didn’t know what to do. Then, one crew member thought they should try to evacuate the plane before they were all under the Hudson. The plane staff took a giant leap of faith and risked their lives to save crew. Taking risks can be a huge accomplishment, even if you think you may fail.

Building Character to Overcome Challenge – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Marcelle Setton   Soccer tryout were tomorrow. Gloria didn’t want to try out because she knew she wasn’t going to get on the team. Gloria’s friend Patricia asked Gloria if she was trying out for soccer. Gloria said no because she isn’t very good. Patricia told Gloria to try something new and get out of her comfort zone. Gloria decided to try out because she had nothing to lose. Gloria tried out and played surprisingly well. She made the team and was happy she tried something new. You never know what can happen when you step out of your comfort zone.

Jewish Moral Values Overcoming Obstacles – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Sari Esses    Many things can be lost when someone is faced with fear, but after these fears are overcame many things can be gained. An examples of fear that holds people back is the fear that a bully would find out if the victim told his parents on him and come back to bully him more. This is a very vast problem in society and the world today. Not only is there a physical bullying but also cyber bullying. Kids can be bullied for days, weeks or even years at a time without their parents knowing that they are being hurt both physically and emotionally. This kills kids’ morale and makes a sharp downfall in their confidence, and also hurts them. What they don’t realize is that telling parents what is going on can make a big difference and help them rather than hurt them. Once kids get over this fear and stand up for themselves, their life would get better and they will live a bully free life.

Teen Stories to Build Resilience – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Marielle Tawil     Because of fear of playing it too safe, you lose a lot of opportunities. If you stay in your comfort zone, you’ll never experience risk, you’ll never enjoy life. Be scared, but then overcome that fear and enjoy life. What do you gain by overcoming fear? Everything! Life! One time I didn’t want to go on a rollercoaster with my friends but my friends convinced me. And I had the best time. It was a thrill I will never experience. So much fun. I am so happy I got out of my comfort zone and took risk, if I had not gone on this ride, I would have missed out. My friends and I look back at that day and think what fun that was. I am so happy that I could be part of that memory.

Jewish Family Values Persistence – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Abraham Goldman    My goal this year was to win a playoff game in the Yeshivah Hockey League. I was in 8th grade and it was my last year on the middle school hockey team. We had an outstanding season. We had a home playoff game. There were 7 minutes left in a game and we scored. With 2 minutes remaining we scored another goal to tie the game up. We went into overtime and it was tied. With 46 seconds left into the second overtime, we lost. Everyone told me I stink and shouldn’t play hockey again. I was very sad after that game. I never gave up. I practiced over the summer times and got better.

From the Torah to Be Resilient – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Joe Terzi     I always wanted to be a singer. I know that I have the voice and motivation to achieve my goal as a professional singer. After school every day I would go to the music shop and have a retired singer tutor me. With each day I felt I was getting better and better. I finally got a gig to open for a local band. I was tense and very nervous. Midway through the performance the audience stated booing. I ran off the stage disgusted by the crowd. How can people be so cruel? But I didn’t give up. I practiced and got another chance to prove myself.

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By Sylvia Azar    My goal in life is to be an author. I wrote a short story for school and no one liked it which made me very sad. I had to read it in school and everyone laughed at me. It was the most embarrassing moments of my life. However, I didn’t let that bump in the road stop me. I tried again and everyone loved it. It even got published.

Torah Perspective on Facebook – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Rachel Gammal Social media can ruin a friendship. A girl has an Instagram and took a picture with her friend. Her friend looked gorgeous and wanted to post it but the girl looked not as pretty in it. So, the friend posted the picture but she cropped the girl out. To the girl, she looked pretty. So, the friend posted the picture and the girl looked on Instagram and saw her picture and she wasn’t in it. So, the girl asked her friend, “Why did you take me out of the picture?” The friend answered, “Because you didn’t look pretty.” The girl got so mad. She went home and unfollowed her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter. She never talked to her again on social media and in real life.

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Stories to Build Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Jack Shalom A good friend is someone who will stick up for you when you have a problem. If someone is embarrassed because he has a pimple on his face, a good friend won’t laugh and make fun of him. He will stick up for him and be on his side. A bad friend will laugh at him and make jokes about him. If you accomplished something like got on the basketball team, a good friend will congratulate you and be happy for you. A bad friend will be jealous and mean to you.

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From the Torah on Friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Stephanie Franco It is important to know who is a true friend and who isn’t. The feeling of having a true friend is comforting. Your real friend should respect you and accept you for who you are, not what you have or wear. On the other hand, a fake friend would judge you for what you wear or buy. Having a true friend is good. If I like to bake and my friend makes fun of me that I bake instead of going shopping, she is a fake friend.

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From the Torah on Facebook – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Olga Tawil Friendship through social media has changed over the years. Social media can lower your self esteem. When you see profiles with more followers than you, you feel less important. You feel bad that you aren’t as popular or don’t have as many friends. But, that’s not true. Most friends on social media are fake and many of them you don’t even know at all. So, when you see someone with many followers, most of them aren’t their true friends. True friends are friends who are kind and care about you and not people who push the ‘follow’ button. People with fake friends will never know how it feels to have real friends. If you don’t put in your effort to make friends, then you never really know who they are and how it feels to have true friends. On social media, you see only what’s on the outside and not the person’s personality.

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Torah Perspective on Facebook – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Eddie Tawil When Michael got a new skateboard, he took a picture of it and he got a lot of likes. Michael really hates to skateboard but he only bought it to be popular. Michael was only acting to like it. Also, his friend told him that it was so cool. His friend also told him that if he didn’t get one, he wouldn’t be popular. Michael couldn’t just do what he wanted to do or else he wouldn’t be popular. Michael is always afraid to be himself. He does not post real comments on Facebook. It’s is just what other people like.

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From the Torah on Facebook – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Steven Sutton Peer pressure. It’s one of those times where every day is Purim, Purim with a social media. You see all of these people doing things that you don’t like, but do it for popularity. You see them doing things in their costumes with friends. You look around and say, “I want to be cool.” You start putting on acts and slipping on your costume. As they see you being one of them, they “like” you. It maybe fun for a day, but, after, you feel like you are on a Broadway show with thousands of fake friends and not experiencing what life is about. You have to be true and ship out your costume and go on with your life. Turn around to those kids laughing by themselves, the real cool kids. Their posts you should ignore.