Jewish Values on Facebook

By Bobby Matalon Did you ever have a real friend? Well, Facebook tricks your mind. Facebook makes you believe that, if you get “Friended,” it means you got a friend. But, while you think you have friends, you don’t know them in real life. Maybe the reason you got friended is because the person who friended is saying, “Oh look. If I friend this popular guy, then he’ll friend me and because he friended me everyone will friend me. That’s how people think on Facebook. Most of the time people who friend you on Facebook are fake. They are just using you to get followers.

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By Sari Cattan  In my opinion social media can affect friendships and relationships in both good and bad ways. In a negative way, social media gives you the wrong judgment of others and gives others the wrong judgment of you. If one of your friends doesn’t post a picture for your birthday, apparently it means that you are not close friends. It definitely lowers your confidence, especially when you see a popular person who has tons of followers and getting lots of likes and you are not getting as many as them. Everything with these social media causes people to make judgments about each other.

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Jewish Values on Facebook – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Emily Pinhas Many people have Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media. When someone posts a picture and gets many likes on it, then other, less popular, people try to do something like the popular people. When they copy the popular girls and don’t get the same amount of likes or comments, they start to think they are not as good as the rest of the world. It changes the real person to be a person who they want to be not to be who they really are. They act like someone they are not just to get ahead in competition and be popular. It also causes people to be jealous of their friends. They feel that they have to do better than all the other girls. It creates a fake person who just wants to be like all the other girls and not feel left out.

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Stories That Build Courage – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Teddy Lozieh  When you approach a friend and you are not that cool looking or strong, they might not like you. They even can bully and make fun of you. So, when you try to make a friend try to be confidence and be yourself and if you are not comfortable with them you try to make another friend. You are not going to have friends if you are not being confident and you will be left out.

Finding success after failure in sports – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Mollie Grinberg Claire gulped in paralyzing fear. It was a cloudy Sunday morning. The day that her parents planned to go rock climbing in the southeast, far away from her hometown in Virginia. “Claire, are you ready?” Claire snapped out of her daze. “Yeah, I guess so…”Her mother bent down to comfort her child. “You don’t have to go, honey,” her mother said. Claire hesitated. She would climb that mountain, even if it was the last thing she did. “Er, mom, can I go first. To get it over with?” A smile formed on her mother’s face. “Okay, if you really want to.” Soon, Claire was strapped tight to her harness and was ready to go. She started climbing fast to the top of the mountain. Halfway up, she looked down and gulped. From 3 feet in the air, she looked back up confident and continued to climb. At one point past the three quarter mark, one of the rocks broke and she dangled from one hand, clutching on to the rock. She was terrified and wanted to give up. But she couldn’t and climbed up all the way to the top. She grinned over the peak. She did it. Keep trying, and don’t give up. Just keep climbing the ladder of success.

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From the Torah on Facebook

By Coral Cohen – Saban Maybe in school you don’t have so many friends so you would think that on instagram or Facebook and twitter you could change your whole personality based on what people like and don’t like. The difference between real friendship and fake friendship is that real friendship is to have a real connection with someone who you could really talk to.

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By Moshe Lati When kids get left out they fell hurt. When your friend gets jealous, he will try to show off or to act cooler than you. When you post a picture on instagram and it gets 100 likes he’ll get jealous and try to get more likes. Also some kids get jealous when they see their friends with a new iphone they want a new iphone.

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By Shoshana Dweck Social media can ruin your individuality and yourself. You might see a picture on Instagram or Facebook or any other social media, and see a picture of someone that is shopping with all her friends and she gets so many likes just because what they are doing is cool and everyone wants to go with them. She might say to herself, “I am not with them. I am not cool.” But you don’t really like what they are doing.

Torah Perspective on Facebook – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Gabriel Bildirici When you log on to any social media, you waste time on trying to keep up with the whole world rather than building and growing relationships. Real friends will be there for you if you need help. Noone posts on Facebook what’s real. As a result everyone thinks you are someone who you aren’t. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have a lot of followers, as long as you have your friends.

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By Samantha Chabot True friendship is one of the most important things in your life and it’s being ruined by social media. Social media allows friendship to be a click of a button. Someone could have a million ‘friends’ on Facebook, but, out of those, how many are genuine friends? Almost every kid and adult has either a Facebook, Instagram or Twitter account. You might ask what is wrong, why is it bad? On someone’s birthday a person might get a text or tweet of “Happy Birthday” but what does it mean? You don’t put any effort in saying it. The person gets so happy that she got a million texts that say “Happy Birthday” but, in the real world, did any one of them make an effort to say it in person? Social media takes away reality and people along with it.

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How to Overcome Fear – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Sarah Turkieh There are many ways a person can prevent for not going on scary rides. One way is to hold the person’s hand and they can close their eyes. A girl who is afraid to go on a ride is taking a risk. Although when they go in a car it’s also a risk. This person is scared and has fear they are going to die. To overcome this fear they just should go on the ride and close their eyes.

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By Coral Cohen – Saban   Last summer I was too afraid to skateboard. Then, I finally got on it and did it. Ever since, I know how to ride a skateboard. Before that, I was afraid that maybe I will get hurt or something. Life is all about taking chances, because you can’t go back to relieve that day. Take chances, risk things, because you never know that maybe one day you could be the one making a difference.

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By Terry Sitt  The most important thing in life is to take chances. One day I went on a trip to Great Adventures. I didn’t want to go on any of the scary rides. I was petrified of them. The second I got to Great Adventures a chill ran down my spine. When my friends came off the ride, they were all talking about how fun it was. Now, I wished I went on that ride. This way I could share their excitement.

Short Story How to Achieve Your Goal – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Bobby Matalon  I want to be a basketball player. But, I’m afraid that I’m going to miss. So, now if I want to be good, I have to practice. Every day I practiced 3 hours a day .Three months later I had my first game. I went out onto the court and took my first shot. I scored 38 points in that first game. I learned that practice makes perfect.

Letting go of past experiences – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Linda Benun  Someone was getting married to a very nice and sweet lady. After all the parties and everything, two days before the wedding the bride called off the wedding. It broke her fiancé’s heart. His family had to calm him down. After that happened, he was always afraid to get into another relationship with someone else because he was afraid he was going to get hurt again. It took him a few years to actually say, “I feel confident that I will find someone.” And he did. He is married now to a lovely lady and they are actually expecting a baby soon. So, now you see what happens when you overcome your fears.

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What you lose by playing it too safe – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Danielle Ammar  Fear. What is it? It’s that voice in your head that doesn’t want you to challenge yourself or doesn’t want you to be yourself. For example, anorexic people just get skinnier and skinnier. Why? Some people might ask how they can starve themselves when they were beautiful already and how can they keep getting skinnier. They’re skinny enough. These people are anorexic because of fear. Fear that they won’t be accepted by other people and the fear of being fat. After a while, that voice of fear will become their ‘friend’ and they won’t stop. Another example is when someone doesn’t like to tell “no” to others. After a while, people will use that person. She needs to learn to be able to say “no” and still be good friends. Fear is a lack of confidence. Everyone is insecure in some way but you need to find a way to grasp even a glimpse of confidence. Confidence means overcoming fear and that’s what you have to do.

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Take more risks, get more rewards – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Joey Alhadef  When you have an idea that you want to share, you should share it or your chance will pass. Your friends will move on to something else. If you think your idea is good, then share it even if you think your friends won’t like it. A lot of successful people have been told that their ideas were weird or their friends didn’t like it but, in the end, they were successful. You are supposed to take risks and face problems.

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Fear makes it hard to be yourself – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Jenny Yedid  I had a wedding where my 9 year old sister marched. My mom bought her a dress that was stunning but was different and unique. It was not the same style that everybody wears. Because of this reason, she was scared and nervous to wear it. My whole family kept on encouraging her and telling her to face her fears. She refused to listen because she didn’t want to step out of her comfort zone. Then, one day, she thought about what we were saying and finally listened. On the day of the wedding, she marched perfectly and everyone loved her dress.

Character Trait of Resilience – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Allegra Timsit   In one of my classes, homework is worth 35% of my grade. I did everything. Then, at the last question I got stock. I couldn’t figure out the answer to the question. I tried and tried over and over more than 20 times. I didn’t want to give up an lose 35% of my grade. I kept telling myself, “Don’t give up. You can do it.” I tried once more. When I finally got the answer, after 40 tries, I was happy that I didn’t give up.

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By Rebecca Sutton  Fear is something that always stays unless you’re able to overcome. For example, doing something different than your friends may sound scary but, once you do it, if they’re true friends, they will support you and accept you. Not doing it, letting fear take over, will make you be always scared and worried about what everyone will think. It will stay with you until you get older unless you face it. So, why not take a chance and live a life?

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Finding success after failure in basketball – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Aura Pinhas   There is a boy named Abie. He wanted to be on the school’s football team. He was practicing with his friends and with a crowd watching. He missed a final goal by far. His friends told him, “You’ll never make the team. You can’t even do something as simple as kick a field goal.” After that, Abie walked home thinking to himself, “I can never make it. But, as much effort as it takes, I will never stop trying, no matter how many times I fail. I am not giving up.” The next day, he was even worse. He was playing with an even bigger crowd watching him. But, in the mid run, he dropped the ball right near the end zone. Day after day, Abie made more and more mistakes. He got more nervous for the day of tryouts. But, in his head, he heard a little voice telling him he could do it. He wanted so badly to get on. Finally, the day of tryouts came. He was so scared and nervous yet he went. He had to run from end field to the beginning and then throw a field goal. Abie was not afraid to run. He was a fast runner. But, he never made a field goal. He heard the crowd booing. So, he threw. He nearly made it. The ball tipped the goal and flew through. He got it in. He was so excited to see that he was in. Even though his friends didn’t believe in him, he did. He knew he could do it.

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Character Trait of Persistence – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Robyn Chalme   Marielle’s goal is to dance. All her life she has been dancing in competitions and recitals. She entered a dance competition and she messed up. Marielle feels like she let her team down. In 2 weeks she has another one. She has to decide 2 things: 1) if she should stop dancing and give up 2) or she could keep on trying and learn from her mistakes. I think you should never give up on your dreams. Always believe in yourself. Keep trying and you’ll get better. You should learn from your mistakes; if you don’t you will never succeed in life. Giving up is the worst thing you could do.

What you lose because of fear – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Chen Menashe  Chances! If we don’t take them where would we be? Sarah studied all night until midnight for a history test. In the morning, her mother asked her the questions again. Sarah knew everything. She went to school to take the test. Sarah was shaking and sweating. The teacher gave her the test and Sarah’s mind went blank. She didn’t know any of the answers. By the end of the test, Sarah skipped the rest of the questions which made her fail. If Sarah had the confidence that she would get 100, if she took a chance and wasn’t afraid, she would get 100.

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Develop Character of Resilience – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Raphael Ammar   Sam wants to be some kind of sports player. Sometimes he makes mistakes, like falling or hurting someone. He ends up getting a comment like “you suck”. The other kids always make him feel like he is not good enough to play that sport. That ends up changing his whole life. Just by saying one word you change someone’s life. You shouldn’t let these things bother you. Just keep on trying and don’t let anything stop you.

Finding success after failure in friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Sarah Louziah  A few months ago, I lost my best friend that I’ve known since I was born. She was my cousin, too. We were so close and a couple of months ago things started to change. I couldn’t imagine losing her. I was so scared of letting her go. I know everything about her and she knew everything about me. Now, you might wonder, what’s the problem? Why were you scared of losing her? And the answer is a new girl came along and I felt like she was stealing her from me. I was so scared and nervous. A few days after my best friend and her new friend became very close, my best friend stopped talking to me; she stopped texting me. I was so lost and didn’t know what to do. I was scared of change. I couldn’t imagine my life without her. She started to use me and only asked me for favors. I made a decision that I am very proud of now. I found other true friends. And they are now my best friends. My cousin doesn’t really talk to me anymore, but I’m fine with that because I changed my whole lifestyle and now I’m much better without a ‘friend’ that uses me. I learned that change isn’t always a bad thing and I encourage everyone to try it once in a while.

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Take more risks, get more rewards – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Mimi Levy  It is extremely important to take chances. You have one life to live and it’s extremely important to live it to its fullest potential. Sometimes, it might be scary. But, if you don’t step out of your comfort zone, you can regret it for the rest of your life. For example, you can lose a great job experience because you are too nervous to show the boss what you are made of. However, it might be too dangerous to take certain chances. You should definitely step out of your comfort zone but don’t be too risky so that it ends up badly.

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By Batya Kairey  I was in Great Adventure in the summer. My friends all wanted to go on a Kingda Ka, but I was scared. I was not scared that I would die, but that I was afraid of the heights. My friends tried to convince me to go on a Kingda Ka, but I was trembling with fear. My friends went on line without me and tried to convince me to come on with them. They were almost at the top and I still didn’t go. When they came down, they were all talking and laughing. They were screaming how good it was. I felt so left out because I didn’t go on. On the next ride they went on, I went, too, and had the time of my life. I will never be afraid to go on any ride again because, if the other people can do it, I can do it too.

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A healthy attitude towards failure – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Laurie Haber  Sarah wanted to be an interior designer. She worked so hard to prepare for her first client. All through her first appointment, Sarah was so excited she didn’t let her client say what he wanted. Sarah kept on rambling on and on about how she wanted the house and what she imagined the house to become. After the first appointment, Sarah’s client called and kindly said that they did not need her services anymore. Sarah wondered what she did wrong. She realized that she did not let her client talk. Sarah fixed her mistakes and became a very successful interior designer.

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What you lose because of fear in friendship – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Terri Elmann  From your first step inside your new summer camp, you know your doubtful feelings that finding friends will be hard. From your high ponytail to your twitching feet, everything about your appearance is unwelcomed. At your assigned group, kids are wearing crop top shirts, their hair down and flowing, laughing and gossiping happily with friends. You blush and stutter nervously, “H-h-hi.” Girls glare at your splash of freckles and light skin. They laugh and giggle and point at you. One girl takes your seat grinning maliciously. Your eyes tear up but you don’t want to start bawling in front of these girls. Your knees buckle weakly and you hurry outside for some fresh air. Tears flow down your face and you wish you could have been put in a different camp. Summer comes and goes quickly with not a word from either of the girls. Only splattered eggs on your window. Overcome your fears. Stand up for yourself. Don’t live with the fear of being bullied by girls who make it clear that you’re unwanted. Success comes in a can, not a can’t. Inspire people to follow your brave path and hope bullying will decrease in a large amount.

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Never be embarrassed to do a mitzvah – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Sion Dweck One day, Ikey went to his friend. His friend was popular and everybody was kind of forced to follow him. Ikey was different from everybody. Every morning, he would wake up very early and pray, put money in sedaka. When he went to his friend’s house, he was told he had to sleep there because it was snowing. He couldn’t do what he did every morning. Ikey was forced to leave his comfort zone because of society. He can overcome it by being himself. He could have been brave and do what he does every morning.

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Be open for change and try new experiences – CLICK TO COMMENT

By Ezra Dweck When I was in the Dominican Republic, my dad was playing volleyball. After one guy left, they needed one more person to play. I was sitting on the side watching the game and, all of a sudden, my dad asked me if I wanted to play. At first I said no, but then my dad convinced me to play. So, I played. I was nervous because I never really played this sport before. My dad told me to keep on trying and then I will get it. I was finally playing very well. I loved playing, I wish I can play this sport every day of my life.

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By Tali Zabari Social media affects your identity and who you are. It affects the way you interact with your friends. Let’s say you have a Facebook and you get upset at your friend. You want to talk it out with her so you send her a message saying, “Why are you being so mean to me?” Your friend gets very offended because she saw what you sent from a different perspective. So, it’s different talking to someone on the internet than talking it out with your friend right in front of you with your actual words and meaning them from your heart. If you do have social media, be careful what you post and what you say because everyone always sees and interprets words differently.

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By Sara Sultan I think when people get into a fight with their close friends and text them while they are in a fight can often be meaner than how you would talk to them in person. Sometimes, if they text you about how they feel, they would also jump to conclusions and say hurtful words that they don’t really mean.

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